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NAAWAN, Misamis Oriental (MindaNews / 25 June) — All of life is about making choices. What you chose in the past made you what you are today. Do not blame your parents, genetics and the environment nor fault destiny. You are what you decided or not decided to be. If you are not happy and […]
In The Name Of AllahThe Most Gracious The Most MercifulNew lessons on love I’ve learned within this year,To inspire Muslims to keep those they hold dear.One: Even though you may find some attractive,To your spouse you stay loyal and supportive.It’s pos…
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Reasons why I rejected some proposals –
From one of them I disliked his baby-faced,
My ignorance back then was quite colossal,
He was to work in Madinah at that time,
I was at fault for judging him by his looks –
Thirteen years old then, needed loads of advice,
Bulimic teen, rebellious, misunderstood.
Another proposal from a childhood friend,
Who similarly came to our house to meet,
Said no to his request which I now resent,
Simply because he was years younger than me.
My dear parents – Allah yarhamhum. Ameen.
Turned down another guy’s proposal for me,
In U.S. he worked while I stayed in Saudi,
Not seeming pious then, they thought he’d mislead.
At eighteen or so I made a big mistake
Of rejecting this man’s proposal wrongly.
To memorize the whole Qur’an he did aim,
From a good family, friends, Pakistani.
The silly reason why I denied again,
Was my assumption he was too soft and shy,
Blame if you like, I was ignorant back then,
I did many wrongs and couldn’t tell what’s right.
Later on Allah taught me about Islam,
Alhamdulillah through learning I was changed.
Value of marriage I loved to understand,
Noble traits like patience made me change my ways.
At twenty I was married to my cousin,
Our marriage though not perfect brought forth lessons.
At twenty-six or so I became first wife,
Loved my husband for Allah more than desires.
Tips regarding marriage proposals, to guide:
Pray the Istikhaarah prayer then decide.
To say yes or no it’s every woman’s right,
While recalling not to judge upon first sight.
Don’t do the wrongs I did. Do learn from mistakes.
On feeling attracted, choose the halal way,
Marry for Allah’s sake, complete your deen/faith,
Keep learning and applying Islam each day.
To parents or guardians of those who’ll marry:
Don’t expect perfection from anybody,
As you yourselves have flaws like everybody.
Don’t demand huge dowries. Make marriage easy.
In-laws don’t need to be from the same country,
Nor be the same socially / financially.
Beauty in diversity / large families.
Understand your kids, they’re the ones to marry.
Marriage is a blessed gift which Allah made
To unite souls who’ll exchange love lawfully,
A journey of loving lessons to God’s Way,
One of the means that strengthen spiritually.
You may not read these, but in Jannah someday,
With Allah’s Will you’ll know what I used to say,
How I truly felt, missing you night and day.
Though you may be wed to up to four I’ll stay,
Even though we don’t see each other always,
Although we’re both busy and you’re far away,
For God, as your first wife I choose to remain.
I’ve loved and love lots, my love for you is strange,
Eccentric yet magnetic in many ways.
I can’t divorce as it’s hard to separate,
Promised to stay loyal since I was engaged.
Accountable for all the choices we make,
I choose to be patient with you for God’s sake,
Contentedly married to you come what may.
Dear husband, that Allah loves you I do pray,
For your success in both worlds I supplicate,
Pray our love reforms us and strengthens our faith,
May this connection inspire and motivate. Ameen.
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Friends transformed to foes and those we used to know,
From lessons learned through experience, sharing tips
To remind others that they are not alone.
On facebook I’ve spotted lots of folks I knew
From school, places I’ve been to, when we were young.
With some so many adventures I went through,
Swapped jokes and laughter, played games, had loads of fun.
Numbers of them I’ve added but they refused,
Probably disliking my transformation,
The jealous among them hate what I now do,
While the rest have old memories forgotten.
Strangely I remember the good times we had,
Soccer, jogging, yoga, playing Truth or Dare,
Long telephone-calls and fancy teenage fads,
Bandanas we wore, styles we tried on our hair,
Exchanging VCDs, DVDs and mags,
And other stuff we used to do together.
At times I wonder what’s the point of those hugs
And love if they had no place in the future.
Then I’ve learned: People come and go, few remain.
Past friends are teachers who taught us memories.
Present names are tests. True friends are those who stay.
Rare worthy ones make it to your VIP.
As for online friends who ditched you, it’s okay.
Learn not to acquire their awful qualities.
Lost friends in this world can always be replaced.
Those who’ll like you share your goals, dislikes and needs.
So long as Allah loves you, you are all-right.
Make Allah your Best Friend, Qur’an by your side,
Books are neat companions, Tahajjud at night,
No need for evil friends who lie and backbite.
May Allah the Most Kind grant us His Friendship,
His Love and entry to Jannah Paradise.
Ameen. Gifts to find in all relationships:
Self-awareness, increased strength, a light that guides.
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In The Name Of AllahThe Most Gracious The Most MercifulFrom teachers I’ve observed at schools I’ve been to,And surveys of students regarding their likes,With God’s Will I’ve gathered nine differencesBetween good teachers and bad teachers unwi…
The Most Gracious The Most Merciful
Good souls click with the right, bad ones with the wrong.
Those who share your goals in your circle belong,
With your own team, not with all, you can get on.
So when you wonder why with this you both clicked,
Your love increases with that each time you meet,
While with others your likes and dislikes won’t fit,
It’s because souls seek those not too different.
Never met them but I liked some instantly,
Seeing them share gifts of knowledge lovingly.
As for those few I loathe, yet I’ve known for years,
Bad vibes they give out I don’t want to go near.
More likely to be friends with those more like you,
If you’re truthful you’ll attract souls who are true,
Liars and fakes won’t agree with what you do,
With the deceitful you’ll more often dispute.
Your friends may define you, choose them carefully.
May Allah Almighty grant ability
To pick wisely – quality then quantity,
Good companions who want Jannah too. Ameen.
(Sahih Al-Bukhari, Kitab Ahadith Al-Anbiyaa’).
Some good deeds my parents did back when living,
As a witness that my parents did their best,
Praying Jannatul Ferdaus is where they rest:
Dear Allah, I remember those nights back then
Seeing my parents pray Tahajjud often,
My Dad as my Mom’s Imam, I’d find them both
Praying together for success in both worlds.
My Mom, a great mom, did whatever she could
To fulfill our needs, she cleaned, sew clothes and cooked,
Woke us early for Fajr Salah on time,
Was always there to love, feed, hug and advise.
Before going to school I’d kiss her goodbye,
Writing her Islamic books as I’d arrive.
Always busy researching about Islam,
She taught me lessons I had to understand.
My Dad, a wonderful dad, tried his best too
In caring for us, buying supplies for school.
Often he’d come home from work with lots of sweets,
Ensure we had blankets before he would sleep.
Many times he’d assist with school assignments.
Though closer to Mom, my Dad was still my friend.
I recall that time he sat right next to me
To prevent boys mixing, to teach modesty.
MashaAllah both were active in Da’wah,
Sharing Islamic talks and giving Zakah.
Saw how they’d donate boxes of food and clothes
To needy loved ones and refugees unknown.
Always concerned for oppressed Muslims worldwide,
In Iraq, Kashmir, Chechnya, Palestine,
And all countries, they did whatever they could
Through du’as and teaching Islam as all should.
My parents too loved feeding stray cats and birds,
Strived to teach us good manners and keep us learned.
From Mom’s advice is not to be material,
To have good manners. From Dad: to stay faithful.
Before Mom died, I helped her pray her prayers,
Lifting her arms, saying ‘Allahu Akbar’.
On seeing Dad passed in ICU, told him
‘You’re a martyr, we’ll meet in Jannah again.’
No nights and days pass without sorrow greeting,
May my tears expiate all my sins. Ameen.
May Allah Almighty always grant Mercy
And unite me with my parents in Jannah. Ameen.
She loves her husband in ways Only God understands.
She knows that to be his first wife is from Allah’s Plan,
She’s his treasure, so she loves him as much as she can.…
He’s plain? In Jannah she knows he’ll be more good-looking.
Not pious? She’s more than glad to teach him religion.
They don’t talk always? In Jannah is their real meeting.
Wed to two to four wives? It’s alright, she still loves him.
She deserves better? She knows, yet she accepts God’s Will.
He doesn’t see her enough? Jannah is Eternal.
She loves him like she’s his gift from the Most Merciful,
For God’s sake she loves, since the first time her love stays real.
Aware of evil forces that try to split them up,
Unwilling to comply with their desires, she still loves,
She loves her husband stubbornly, though it may be tough,
She won’t leave him to please their foes, thus she won’t give up.
She’s a fighter in love, for Allah she loves truly.
She loves her spouse till he departs this world peacefully,
And if there’s a next one she’ll love him similarly –
For now he’s her only man she loves so faithfully.
When she loves, she loves for God, not just anybody.
Her love life is a complex yet loving mystery,
A puzzle to solve through sacrifice and poetry,
A journey of lessons learned by those who love bravely.
May our marriage be blessed by Allah the Almighty,
May Allah Most Kind love us for our faith and good deeds,
And for our striving May Allah fulfill our best dreams,
May Allah prove all someday that it’s worth it. Ameen.
It began as a dress code at a Saudi gov. school,
Only when going outside to wear the complete veil.
No problem with niqab back then save for some travels.
I used to think niqab should be worn just in Saudi,
My faith back then was not strong till Islam I studied.
Back then I was conscious of wearing niqab fully,
Was okay wearing it around many niqabis,
But after research and advice from my dear parents,
I’ve learned niqab is Wajib or at least encouraged.
To remove niqab as Hajj pilgrims is evidence
That niqab is Wajib, rewarding and important.
Niqab is useful in a sense it prevents wrong gaze,
It’s meant to promote modesty and strengthen one’s faith,
To join those who strive to obey God’s Laws night and day,
Distinguishing devout women from those led astray.
Alhamdulillah I’m now a full-time niqaabi,
Don’t mind if I’m the only one amongst hijabis.
Not a big deal too if onlookers would stare at me.
Another way of doing Da’wah indirectly.
Negative reactions with niqab? Yes, a few times.
‘Aswang!’ or ‘Monster!’ I’ve been called once by a scared child,
A few laughter here or there in public, day or night,
Curious stares from those who see niqab for the first time.
Even from some Muslim kids I’ve been asked ‘Why wear that?’
My response: ‘I’m Muslim, faith stronger with the niqab.’
I’ve been called ‘Ninja!’ by ignorant adults and brats,
Their lack of travel and world knowledge I understand.
Love niqab for Allah’s sake, dear niqabi sisters.
All your sins are taken by each one of your mockers.
Those who ridicule, think, they’ve never been travelers,
They’re insecure, so through you they try to find laughter.
Take pride in being of the ‘ghurabaa’ / strangers few,
Humble to God, nice with likes, watchful of what you do,
Adorned with manners and inner beauty that shines through,
Praying you enter Jannah and Allah welcomes you.
C: Contemplate on the positives. Care wisely.
D: Demand less from this world, don’t be too worldly.
E: Evaluate yourself before Judgment Day.
F: Forgive yourself and others’ human mistakes.
G: Gather good deeds, facts and authentic knowledge.
H: Help one another do what’s right with courage.
I: Include Muslims in your du’as night and day.
J: Join the righteous, Allah’s friends. Never betray.
K: Kindness to the young, mercy to elderly.
L: Love the truthful ones. Guide the lost and lonely.
M: Make all your deeds just for Allah Almighty.
N: Never compare yourself to anybody.
O: Only do better than yourself yesterday.
P: Pray on time, pray more Sunnahs, sincerely pray.
Q: Quit sinful acts and wasting time with bad friends.
R: Real friends listen, understand, share and defend.
S: Seek Allah’s Forgiveness and Guidance always.
T: Try to stay true. Inspire all to do the same.
U: Understand this world is but temporary.
V: Vie with others for Allah’s Love and Mercy.
W: Win Allah’s friendship through your faith and good deeds.
X: Excel in truth, character and piety.
Y: Your goal is to enter Jannah free of sins.
Z: Zealously pray that we meet Allah smiling. Ameen.
My muse, my motivation and first true love –
A poem yet again though it’s not enough
To let all know why on you I gave up not.
Though there may be myriad reasons to dislike
You and how you may not fulfill all my rights,
There’s one good reason I’m still here day and night:
I love God more than myself and my desires.
I love you, husband, for Allah’s sake – it’s true.
Grateful for all the good deeds you used to do,
Not forgetful I’m a gift from God to you,
Your subtle love for me you don’t need to prove.
One good reason why I still love is patience,
Knowing your wrongs are due to interference,
Nosy involvement from those with aversion –
Won’t please my foes by choosing separation.
No worries, if God Wills, in Jannah we’ll meet.
Jannah Paradise is where bliss is really,
Eternal perfection without fakery,
Real home of the righteous, steadfast and sincere.
One reason I share my story is to teach
And motivate all to embrace loyalty,
Which lets you see when neglect is forced or real,
And keeps you vigilant of spies who envy.
May Allah the Almighty and Most Loving
Accept our good deeds and forgive all our sins.
Ameen. May Allah make us of those destined
To meet Him in Jannah smilingly. Ameen.
Ameen. Special message to my dear parents,
To my Muslim family, distant loved ones,
Although we don’t see each other night and day,
Always note my loving you will still remain
Until it finds perfection up there someday,
In Jannah where there’s no worry nor dismay.
Our meetings sometimes rushed, loads of jobs to do.
Yet we forgive each other, knowing it’s true
Blessed love that leads to Jannah treasures value.
No stress, distress, tiredness, loss nor depression,
No despicable traits nor comparison.
So grand that one’s mind can’t even imagine.
The sincere ones who do good deeds aplenty,
The truthful supporters who love God truly.
And join us with those who’ll meet Him lovingly. Ameen.
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Dear Allah the Almighty, Most Wise and Kind,
On this special day, as we fast at this time,
As the Hajj pilgrims at ‘Arafat unite,
We supplicate and pray for Muslims worldwide.
Dear Allah, forgive all our sins which You know,
Pardon our wrongdoings, please excuse our flaws,
About what we go through, Only You know most,
To what is dear to You Allah bring us close.
Keep us away from what You Allah don’t like,
Please bless the gifts You gave us each day and night,
Make us among Your friends who enjoin what’s right,
O’ Allah guide us and remain on our side.
Those who have mistreated us You’ve seen them well,
With them O’ Allah wisely and justly deal,
Each one’s future Just You Allah hold and tell,
In Jannatul Firdaus allow us to dwell.
Forgive us for prayers not prayed perfectly,
For gossiping and lying misguidedly,
For thinking wrong thoughts about anybody,
For all sins done publicly or privately.
O’ Allah noble manners please teach us more,
Learning the Qur’an daily make us adore,
To Your Mercy and Light please open Your doors,
Make Jannah, near You Allah, our home for sure.
Reunite us with our loved ones near You please
In Jannah, and accept all of our good deeds.
O’ Allah make us of those You’ll love to meet,
And through us guide many, with mercy. Ameen.
The Virtue Of Saying Du’as/Supplications On Yawm ‘Arafah
Good Deeds You May Do On The Day Of ‘Arafah
Mariam <3 Nomayri AbdulWahab
Some secrets divulge and I realize:
Some friends move on as their paths change with time,
Others misguided by their loathsome pride.
“Friends” who quickly leave never meant to stay;
True friends stick by you though they’re miles away.
Through some lost friendships Allah wants you safe –
From bad influence or sins that remain.
As people change, ensure you do what’s right,
Stay on the Straight Way towards Allah’s Light.
With sinful friends don’t be preoccupied,
With dignity walk away from their lies.
To long-lost friends: Though not close here I’ll be,
Willing to forgive and guide with mercy.
To Stay Friends Or Walk Away From Certain People
5 Reasons why some people may no longer
connect with each other:
1] Misunderstanding on one or both sides which was not settled properly, due to arrogance or inability to understand each other’s point of view.
2] Deliberate lack of interest or communication between the two parties, either because of too many differences or doubting that the other may not accept them as friends.
3] When one is right and the other wrong, when one has become religious and the other is still addicted to certain sins, when one is humble and the other arrogant – good usually cannot get along with what is bad.
4] Change of ways, goals and interests – when you can’t find each other agreeing on the same thing it may be difficult to click and bond.
5] Forgetfulness – the person you try to reconnect with on facebook may have forgotten who you are but should you ever meet again Insha-Allah personally they may befriend you like they did before.
Why Allah is The Only True Friend whose Love and Friendship we can share:
Allah the Most Forgiving readily forgives you so long as you constantly return to Him. No matter where you are, what time it is and what mood you’re in, Allah the All-Knowing is always there to listen to you and grant you solutions with wisdom. Unlike some people who get tired of too many requests, Allah loves you more as you cry to Him more, talk to Him more often and say your du’as.
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